We have to lose who we think we are so that our true selves can be found. We have to leave behind the expectations of our parents, perhaps our teachers and often even our friends to allow us to become ourselves. When we lose willingly the desires of others for how we must be, what we must do and even where we should live, we then find the excitement of a new journey that is for us as individuals to create and plan. In truth we never lose anything but always discover new things, fresh ideas, different understandings of how life can be. The loss that we suffer is always replaced with the splendid element of discovering the new.