We remember many things because of the emotions that were felt at the time of the event, they remain in our memory. How we choose to recall these memories is often not our choice they can just come upon us suddenly and unwanted. Of course, if it is a memory of a loving action then remember away as the reflection upon the moment will only bring joy. However, if what we went through before causes pain, it is not something we choose to reflect upon but it descends upon us uninvited. When this happens think only of what we have learned, how we recovered and how strong we became, do not give power to these unwanted thoughts. Try to lessen the difficult memory by abandoning these thoughts when they creep up and see how we have moved through and in doing so we can banish what we do not need into the mists of time.