The problem is that sometimes it is not always about us, but more often to do with situations and events concerning other people. Quite frequently in life we find ourselves in a difficult position, we are uncomfortable, and we do not know what we have done to cause this. Sometimes it has nothing at all to do with us, so why claim it? Stop focusing on your own feelings of rejection or hurt and look further than your own emotional reactions. Remember that very often we do not know the whole story so remain calm and graceful and just listen and do not become another problem.